I hope that some of you can help. Recently my son said a "word" that is, well for lack of terms, a swear word. We talked about it and how we don't say certain words. I explained, I thought, what the word was. But then last night at his Pinewood Derby he dropped the same word again! I wasn't around, so Gabriel talked to him. So, hopefully we won't hear the word again.
But here is my question. What do you do if it is said again?
And what about the other words? Do I tell him what the words are so when he hears them he knows right away that it is not a good word? I have told him there are other words and if he hears a word that we don't say here at home to let me know and we can discuss if it an appropriate word or not. But it didn't work with our most recent bomb that was dropped. So, if any of you have any advice on how to handle this I would really appreciate it. Thanks a bunch!!
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I think if you do the old fashioned way... "wash his mouth out with soap" he will not do it again! :) Chloe was saying some crude words the other day and Cyrus threatened her with that and I haven't heard them since! Good luck!
Ooh, I'm scared of that! Braden struggles with what comes out of his mouth sometimes, although he's been sheltered from "real" bad words so far. Especially if he says words we've asked him not to after we've had talks about how Heavenly Father asked us to use kind words and to be clean, I've washed his mouth out with soap and while I hate doing it, it feels like it fits the crime and if I let it slide they think, "oh I can get away with this." (My mom used to put some pepper on our tongue and make us sit there with it on our tongue for a minute before we could wash it out or get a drink.) Then there are the questions about how come other kids don't do what we ask our kids to do... I'm very scared for all the things the kids will bring home as they get older, I'm sorry you're already going through it! I'd love to hear if there's anything specific he responds to, for when the inevitable happens here... (um, sorry for the really long comment)
I have this drink in my fridge that I think may fix it. Oh wait! Sorry! Had to turn it into the lab this morning... hmmm... nix that idea.
Sorry- I am the one who deleted my comment- because I said what I didn't mean to say. This is what I meant to say:
I highly recommend NOT using soap in the child's mouth- apparently I am out numbered though so if you are going off of popular vote, poor Zach. If you are going off of my vote (being a super delegate)- Zach is free and clear. Besides, do you really want to add one more item to the list of things Zach doesn't like to eat? Fish, chilli, soap, pineapple. He just doesn't need anything else not to like.
Go and read Glenn Latham's book- I am sure he has something in there.
someone in baltimore told me to tell my kids that "those words are adult words only"!?! i never told my kids that! :)
My Activity Day assistant had brought her son to an activity once. He said a bad word and she immeiatley popped him in the mouth and was angry and abruptly said, "we don't say that, not on my time." and threw him in the corner. I felt really bad for the kid, he had no idea it was a bad word, then to have his mom freak out like that he was mor affraid of his mom than the bad word!!
I think talking to your kids about it is the best way to go. And being very serious about the serious-no-using of the words.
My kids think potty talk is funny, even though I get on them time and time again, and again, and again!! They know I am serious when they go to time out, I make them stay there longer if it's something we have talked about before - It's only taken about 6 months, now they know if they say potty words, I just look at them and they know they are not using good language.
It's not easy but I think it takes consistancy and some times a little bit of showing upset on your side AFTER you have tried to teach them kindly and calmly!
Colton had a hard time not taking the Lords name in Vain b/c he always said gosh and would slip and his friends surround him with it. I can say that he has now outgrown it luckily. OF all the words...why this one? After a few too many mishaps-we had to go to soap, regardless of where we were ANd no longer says gosh. We came up wiht a list of other words he could use. We also had to VERy seriously tell him how we DO NOT allow tis in our home and why... and how it hurt us. it has worked..you will make it through..promise!!
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